Let’s just get a couple of things straight.
- Not all women who participate in BDSM are submissives
- Not all women who participate in BDSM have male partners
- Submissives in healthy BDSM relationships give ongoing enthusiastic consent, set limits and participate in negotiations, use safe words and are provided with after care
If you criticise BDSM as ‘anti-feminist’ based on the assumption that all subs are abused, you don’t know what you’re talking about.
If you criticise BDSM as ‘anti-feminist’ based on the assumption that all female participants in BDSM are straight subs, you might want to reconsider how feminist your beliefs really are.
The stupid social bias that “submissive women are weak” had a big impact on me. I first discovered BDSM through fanfiction and then read up on it. Since I see myself as a strong, independent woman of course I thought: No way you’re a sub! Of course you’re a dom.
Then why do I identify more with the sub’s perspective in fanfiction? Why do I find what is happening to subs in BDSM pornography more arousing than what is happening to doms?
Conclusion: Oh, I have submissive tendencies.
Thanks to fanfiction (it might even have been kryptaria and bootsnblossoms's work), I realized how much courage and strength it takes to need. It's not about being “beneath” your partner - there needs to be a lot of trust. The subs offer their submission and the dom gets the power but they have to honour that responsibility and not abuse it.
So yes, wsswatson is absolutely right.
This is a simple text based game where you play as a young trans person trying to buy some underwear. I made it with the intention of showing cis people what it’s like to be trans. You can play as a trans girl, trans boy, or a nonbinary person. It’s short, so you can play it multiple times for different paths. There are several paths, some better, some worse; if you’re easily triggered by dysphoria or transphobia, you may want to avoid this game. Some paths are safer than others, depending on how well you pass (surprise, surprise). TW for homophobic/transphobic slurs, transphobia/transmisogyny, slurs, misgendering, and possible violence.
I did this just to see how relatable it was, and holy shit it was like someone put me back in the spots i was in only a year ago. My heart is racing shit.
ow… my everything hurts…
Hey all my cis followers: this is instructive. Go play it.
I was trying to work on a similar game only to end up collapsing and crying on my keyboard. I haven’t opened Twine since.
Thanks for doing this. People need to play this. Only video games have the ability to put you into the skin of someone else, to make you feel their pain, and that’s why using gaming to express dysphoria is something I find vital.
white Americans being against immigration is still and always will be the greatest irony of all time
If you are a man who thinks it’s funny to make misogynist jokes purely to make your female friends uncomfortable/angry, then you are a misogynist. It is not “just a joke.” You literally are finding humor in the discomfort and dehumanization of women. You are not helping, you are not making satire. You are just being misogynist.
things ppl say that alerts you to them being the actual worst:
- john was my favourite beatle
- abolishing religion would solve a lot of problems
- i’m not a racist i hate all races equally
- disliking someone because of their political affiliation is ridiculous
- but if you think about it stereotypes do exist for a reason
- god, can you believe people on welfare own iphones
- but what about mens rights
- why can’t white people say the n-word
- i’m just being the devils advocate
i don’t trust vegans who are against seeing eye dogs THERE I SAID IT
i think you’re all ableist garbage, have a good one
Wait is this a thing PLEASE TELL ME THIS ISN’T A THING
So if we have to show women what the baby looks like in their womb and tell them how the process works before allowing them to get an abortion, does that mean we should teach our soldiers about the culture of the lands we’re invading, and explain to them that the people we want them to kill have families and feel pain, just like Americans?
No, show them the bodies of women and children struck by grenades and tank fire.
A motion for a second “stand your ground” hearing for Marissa Alexander has been denied, in a ruling made Friday by Judge James Daniel.
Marissa Alexander has been denied a new Stand Your Ground hearing. Yet again, Florida refuses to free this survivor of domestic violence, fails to support women’s right to self defense, and continues to support anti-black racism in the judicial system. Her new trial is still scheduled to begin Dec 8th.
Marissa needs your voices and support more than ever!
Standing Our Ground Week of Action is still on!
July 25-Aug 1: LET’S TAKE ACTION!